Divorce is a challenging situation. There are a lot of factors that add to the stress and sadness of a divorce. When you are going through something so tough, you may want to avoid making divorce harder.
Avoid Making Divorce Harder | Adultery
Maybe there was infidelity in your marriage and so the question always comes, “How much do I want to carry on my journey?” The journey’s long and the more baggage you carry the slower you are going to move in the process. In New Jersey, there isn’t a lot of legal implication in your spouse having an affair. Yes, it can come up in the context of custody. Yes, in certain circumstances it can come up in terms of equitable distribution. By and large, the reason that you’re coming along on this journey is not as important as the end result. Focusing on some of the hurt feelings and some of the mistakes that you’ve made along the way or your spouse has made along the way isn’t going to change the process and it certainly isn’t going to help you move forward. In most instances, I caution my clients in bringing it up at all.
Avoid Making Divorce Harder | Social Media
Social media and divorce can be a very tricky subject. Social media is not the place to litigate your case. It’s not the place to air out your frustration with the process, your frustration perhaps with your spouse’s attorney, or even the judge for that matter. I caution my clients if you have social media, keep what you have. No one is saying delete it or take down your page, but certainly don’t post things pertaining to the litigation. Typically, I get the response, “This is America and I have a 1st Amendment right to say what I want to say.” Maybe, but if you’re involved in a high-profile case let’s say, a judge might say, “Hey I don’t want anything regarding the litigation posted on social media.” These are all important considerations, but also if there are children involved in the case. Young children now have access to so much on the Internet whether it’s on their iPad or their cell phones. Do you want your children to read about your divorce on social media or their friend’s parents? Be careful what you post is what I say.
If you would like to know more about how to avoid making divorce harder, please call our New Jersey divorce lawyer today for a free consultation.